They're funny things, feelings...our emotions are the driver of our focus. We pick at things, turning tiny niggles into all encompassing worries. A throwaway comment from a stranger about our child becomes the source of great distress as we lie awake wondering if “doesn’t she look tired?” actually means we’re a terrible, neglectful parent.
If you want to turn a small debt into a large one, you can’t just look at your credit card bills – you need to worry about them too, fret, stay frozen and powerless whilst envisioning bailiffs and foreclosures, bankruptcy and shame. Alternatively, by the way, and I wholeheartedly suggest this; you could take stock, and make the small steps needed to start making huge change.
Fortunately, you can use emotional phenomena to encourage and enhance the nice things in life. Try feeling how you’ll feel when you’ve got what you want, and lo and behold, that’s what you’ll amplify. When you spend your energy and time feeling happy you natural draw happy to you. It’s almost as if the feelings you feel create a ‘resonance’ that attract people, things and situations that ‘resonate’ at the same frequency. This doesn’t mean that bad things never happen to happy people, but notice how happy people respond to bad things. If you don’t like the things you’ve been attracting, change how you feel. What you focus on increases, practice feeling wealthy and you will attract wealth, practice feeling happy and you will attract happy events. Whether you like the term or not, it’s Law of Attraction 101.
Like Attracts Like
Don’t underestimate the power of I am. Despite overuse, media ridicule and the misinformations that exists around affirmations- if you want to feel good more of the time, start telling yourself the good stuff and see what happens. You’ll possibly start sceptically, I encourage those with a cynical disposition to tread lightly, “I am happy”, “I am grateful” or simply “I love you” (to oneself) whilst standing at the bathroom mirror in the evening will suffice. Notice the feelings and thoughts that come up, and then accept them for what they are. Give it 30 days before you dismiss the project as useless.
Of course, there is only NOW, and we all like what’s familiar. Whether consciously or not, we use affirmations daily, if yours are more along the lines of: I‘m so unlucky, I’m so stupid, I’m so poor...how’s that been working out for you? You might want to think about changing them, get yourself a new idea and start living happy. Want to feel happy all the time? Start by getting comfortable being happy now.