Katy Tucker, known among her peers and clients as Katy Starlight, is a channel, light worker, healer and shamanic space holder. Katy is CEO of Starlight
1)Tell me about those titles!
I would say that predominantly, I am a channel, which is when you connect to spirit, to your higher self, to source, to the earth and bring energy and information from that which you connect to. You bring this to your client, your circle, yourself; wherever it is needed. It is similar to being a psychic, apart from the fact you are bringing energy through you...I would say that being a psychic comes under the umbrella of channeling, and is one of the ways in which you can channel. Channeling runs through all of my work so all that I do involves channeling at some level. There are three main branches from this, within my work. These are:
Healing, which is sometimes one-to-one, but mainly through group work; through workshop, journeys (retreat style events) and ceremonies. The healing depends on what the individual needs, and what the theme of the workshop is. For example, if we’re doing a womb healing day, then we’ll work very much with the divine feminine energy, and the womb or what needs to be healed, shifted or transformed. All sorts of techniques come under channeled healing.
Light Work is a term that is used a lot on the spiritual scene, but to me, it is work that is done for the collective; energetic work that works with the grids of the planet, healing the planet, clearing collective consciousness; it’s work for the whole, as opposed to work for the individual. Again, the guidance I receive is channeled, and many techniques are used. Mostly this work is in groups, but occasionally I am guided to work alone, or with just one other person.
Shamanic Space-holding is how I describe the ceremonial work I do; I love ceremony, I find it’s been huge for my life, my guides explain ceremony best to me, I’m told “ceremony speaks to the parts of yourself that don’t speak English!” (laughing) – so really it’s about working with the subconscious on the things you’re not so aware of. I call it Shamanic ceremony because we do lots of things that derive from shamanism, such as Cacao and fire ceremonies, but it’s not traditional shamanism, it’s channeled shamanism and as such it has many different layers to it that are not considered ‘traditional’.
Space-holding comes into everything, which it’s why it’s at the other end of the title I think! I don’t see myself as a teacher, though sometimes my guides teach through me, but I wouldn’t say that even they see themselves as ‘teaching’, or healing or even as light workers. I think that most of what I do within all of those things, is to hold space, for people to find out what works for them, if people try stuff out, which on my personal path has been absolutely key to my own spiritual growth; find what works, let go of what doesn’t, become empowered in everything that’s learned...all I’m doing is allowing people to have their own experience, I see it as like being a midwife, I’m there to support, to hold, to give advice and guidance...but they are the ones giving birth, you’re just holding space for them to do so. Starlight is about empowering people in their own healing, spirituality and sense of self, in order to undertake this very important work and light work that heals us, the universe, and the earth.
2)What lead you to your current profession?
Well, I think that, as with most people that get involved with spirituality and self-help, it’s due to coming from a place of pain and unhappiness, which is certainly true for me; I was very unhappy as a teenager and I was trying to find a way to make myself happy! So I was reading lots of self-help books, which lead to books on manifesting, and then exploring subjects that are maybe considered a bit more ‘high-energy’, like channeling, healing and things like that. But it was kind of a stepping-stone journey, so it wasn’t something that happened over-night, it gradually evolved, and still is evolving to this day; I still explore many different things when I need help with something, and the things that work are the things I tend to share.
3)What did you expect to be doing as a profession?
I thought that I was going to be an actress, that’s what I trained in at drama school. Actually my drama school years were some of the worst years of my life! I really wasn’t happy, I found it to be very prescriptive, the schools I was at tried to box people, to make products out of people; if you were rebellious to the process then you were given a particularly hard time by the faculty. The more free-spirited, creative side of me struggled with being in an almost military-like environment that was meant to be about creativity. (Laughs) So I wasn’t very happy! For a few years I did fringe acting and performance after that. The spirit guides say that we’re never not on our path, as in our path is our path, and it’s always being followed even when it seems not to be. As vibrations shift you hit different levels and have different experiences of your path. I’ve been an actress, a comedienne, a tour guide, and actually all of those things are the same: they’re about communication and connection, and they all taught me things that serve my path massively; there was a huge amount of meditation, breath and body work at drama school, there was voice work too and it’s all essential to the work that I do now. What I’ve learned has been invaluable to me now; comic timing, speaking, working with instincts, bringing humour into my groups when people are nervous or unsure is the best thing to do, put them at ease; make them laugh and they will relax immediately. Tour guiding taught me how to deal with large groups; Starlight take groups on retreats and journeys, I’ve become brilliant at maneuvering large groups of people due to the walking tours I did in London...we call it herding cats! I think the ultimate version of your path will combine everything that you’ve ever loved in the perfect ‘ingredient combination’ so that you feel completely happy and fulfilled by it. Of course, it changes because we’re always growing, and so whatever I’m doing will serve my path in the future, even if it looks very different from what I’m doing now.
4)What made you keep going when things got tough or challenging, what motivated you to continue?
For me, it was kind of accidental. So I learned how to heal and how to channel and I was doing these things as hobbies, then one of the workshops I belonged to had its leader, Solara, move to Ibiza. She gave me her class when she moved, so it was basically handed to me. Again, it was a part time thing; I was juggling it along with acting and tour-guiding and many other things. It slowly became apparent that I preferred this thing to any other, but it took me an awfully long time to completely let the others go. In fact one of the things I cover when I’m talking about manifesting is that you have to clear out the old manifestations that you thought you had, and look at why you thought you had them; acting was never right for me, because actually I’m far better at not being dependent. Looking back, I’d often make excuses for not doing acting, whereas with this, there was nothing that was going to stop me, you know? That’s the difference. Sometimes I’d need to be in Avebury or Glastonbury for 9am, and be up at 4 in the morning and make my way on a bus, across the country! It was that realisation: when something is your path you just do it. When something is no longer your path, you create stories and make excuses. Your path is never easy though; a friend of mine was talking about motherhood and she said that it was both the best thing, and the worst thing in the world, and that is exactly how I feel about my path.
5)What motivates you now?
How I keep going...I have learnt that whatever life is showing me, is to help me get to the next stage, no matter how much it feels like it’s working against me at times, it is actually showing me belief systems and things that I need to clear and heal, in order to move on. So I use the experiences I have to move me forward, and it works. I can usually move through ‘obstacles’ quite quickly and easily, I’m like “OK, what’s this belief system and how do I clear it? What do I need to change in order to sort this situation, which life is reflecting at me, out?”.
6)What do you do for fun, which is not directly connected to your work?
I come from a family of workaholics, and that is actually one of those belief systems that I had to work on very hard...not to be a workaholic. I was forced into that lesson in a very hard way, in that, last winter, the universe basically blocked all of the flow of my workshops; nobody was coming to anything which had never happened before. Eventually I had a channeling with another channel, because I was in such a mess, I couldn’t get my own guidance, and she was just, like “you are having an energy upgrade; it is not safe for you to be working, for at least a few months.” Which for me was absolutely terrifying! It meant that I had to face a lot of the beliefs I held around being addicted to work, and I eventually discovered that it was deeply connected to my sense of self worth and how I needed to let that go and to give myself worth in other ways. It was hugely liberating....so anyway, I’d say ‘not working’ is quite a new thing to me!! I love people; I have an amazing array of friends and family, when I spend time with them, doing anything, whether it be having a barbecue, going for a walk, or to the theatre...that is my “oh, I’m not at work now, I’m not gonna talk about those things right now”...and actually I think that when you do very high vibration energy work, that is far away from the third dimension, as it’s very conceptual, inter-dimensional, then it’s very important not to disconnect from the third, physical dimension reality, because otherwise you’d go mad! You really need to be able to enjoy all of the amazing things within the third dimension; from enjoying lovely food to noticing how beautiful a plant is, to how amazing people are at creating – everything from shows to music, things like that.
7)What ONE question would you like to know the answer to?
(SIGHS)....I think that question is ever changing, and it may sound strange but I don’t feel like I have any questions at this time. I feel like, as a channel, I have such an amazing toolbox to answer pretty much anything, that there’s no question that I couldn’t find an answer to. I know that the layers of that answer will change and evolve with me, because there is no one answers to any question, but I feel I can always access the right answers for me at any given time.
8)Do you have a favourite place in the world?
Ahhh, there are so many places that I love deeply; I’m in love with the planet and travelling is a huge part of my path and life. One place I have repeatedly returned to since I first visited, and it’s a place I have visited every year since first coming, is Ibiza. My connection to that island....every time I go, it gives me something more, and every time I take groups there, we do a journey there now, it is so magical it blows my mind; we always discover more of its secrets....and it’s an absolute love affair, that island and me! Avebury, in the UK, that’s another place I keep going back to, Avebury is where my work as a channeler, light worker and space holder began, I return there every winter solstice, some times more than once, like Ibiza, it’s a power place for me; they’re soul places, they’re something more than just a place I’ve visited; they’re deeply connected to who I am, and I’m deeply connected to what they are.
9)Without hesitation, describe yourself in five words:
Magical, excitable, communicator, happy, and empowered.
10)What ONE piece of advice would you give to your 18 year old self?
As confused, wild, unhappy and lost as I was at 18, I wouldn’t give her any advice. Everything she did, has lead me to where I am now, as did all of the other ages that I have been, and this truth that I have about your path always belonging to you and always being right for you...I am so grateful for... I cannot express how often the most traumatic times of my life have been of greatest service to me, and I would never want to divert 18 year old me from that path; I would tell her that she is perfect, and brilliant, though I wouldn’t have told her that at the time. I was a real wild child at 18, but those things that I did lead me to level of great compassion, I would not have that depth of understanding without those experiences, and so I will leave her just as she is.
Katy runs many online courses, group journeys and ceremonies. Based in Brighton, Starlight run experiences all over the world, for further information and access to all that they can offer, please visit
We’ve all seen success. We’ve all experienced it to some degree. Success is often exponential if it is a result of mindset. There are certain human beings we think of immediately when asked “who’s successful?” – yet if you look into anyone’s life, you’ll find failure and struggle abounds. In fact, that might just be the secret to success.
To win at life, or for addressing one area, project or initiative, it might be suggested that one ticks off the following pointers along the way:
Does the company we keep affect our quality of life?
Quality of life: we all want it, but what is it? – Probably a whole other article in itself but it’s widely accepted that the desire triangle (health, love, career) or the list of priorities most commonly given by first world inhabitants (family, spirituality, health, finance, career, romance/sex, leisure/free time) reflects pretty well what we gauge our quality of life against. A commonality that runs through many of these things is relationships; that is, the quality of the relationships associated with these priorities has a huge bearing on how happy we are with each. For example, your family is a huge priority for you, but how satisfied are you with the relationships that live inside that Family (however you define it)? Are you more likely to prioritise a quality family dynamic than you are a dysfunctional one? Quite probably not; the things that truly matter to us are intrinsic to our core values. Quality of life therefore is equal to the degree in which we are living our values combined with how well our values are met by our priorities. Think of it in terms of goals; if we have a goal that is totally aligned with at least one of our core values, chances are we’ll hit it with relative ease, and have a wonderful time on the way. If we’re doing what makes us happy, we’re probably doing it well.
Aristotle stated that friendship (philia) is key to human happiness; the paradigm case of friendship being a relationship that is mutually recognised and taking place between two adults of equal standing. Or more specifically: the mutually acknowledged and reciprocal exchange of goodwill and affection that exists among individuals who share an interest in each other on the basis of virtue, pleasure or utility.
Aristotle noted that whilst other, non-equal, friendships, could exist, they were of an inferior nature.
Jim Rohn, American entrepreneur, author and motivational speaker famously quoted that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with – for example, economically this would mean that you can take the salaries of the five people you spend the most time with, add them up, divide the total by five and you will probably have a figure that represents your own salary. Likewise then, with intellect, confidence, spirituality and contentment, to name but a few qualities.
Personal insights gained through my coaching clients indicate this to be accurate. Granted, my coaching style probably dictates the kind of clients I attract and am attracted to (they tend to be aspirational, creative, compassionate types), but they come from all walks of life. Some are rich and materialistic; some are humble and utterly benevolent with what they have. Their upbringings and life experiences vary from the chaotic, dysfunctional and traumatic, to those verging on idyllic. However, at some point, I’ve witnessed each and every one enact something I call the frenemy shoulder slump (FSS). They each have people in their lives that literally bring them down.
Me: How are things with your mum?
Coachee: (FSS) urgh.
Me: Did you talk to your manager about your idea?
Coachee: Yeah, (lights up) she’s excited to try it, she suggested I get a few of the team together and (sighs) enlist some support from (FSS) Karen in marketing
We all have these people in our lives, if they’re not one of the top five we spend time with, then there’s more chance we can manage them effectively, but if they have full access to us, they can cause us real problems; when a friend obstructs (or we perceive them to) our important goals or our other relationships, the impact is negative and often stressful. The more time you spend with friends that have bad habits, the more likely you are to adopt or continue those bad habits for yourself (just look to your drinking buddies!) Of course, the opposite is true too; spend all your free time with your marathon running bestie and your couch-potato days will soon become a thing of the past.
I ensure that when feelings of betrayal, disappointment and stress come from my clients’ friendships that we address them urgently; these things undermine your best self and are not representative of healthy, positive influence.
There is then, compelling evidence that it matters who we surround ourselves with. And in order to feel contented and fulfilled, we should think carefully about who we invest in emotionally and otherwise. The adage do less, have more seems apt; select and develop a few close, valuable relationships. It’s almost always about quality not quantity where life satisfaction is concerned.
As the weather finally warms here in rainy Northern England, thoughts turn to change and growth. It’s only natural to want to clear out the cobwebs at this time of year. We make our resolutions; we desire shifts and improvements in our lives.
Some time ago, a friend told me to read Doreen Virtues book on time, I expected something around management, but actually it's smarter than that; a refreshing and interesting take on how we perceive time and the impact that has. Many fabulous leaders have their version of this, but Doreen explores our conditioned beliefs in detail and some of it really stuck with me. I've distilled the overarching message, as I perceive it:
There is always something that we want more of, be it time, love, money, sleep...the list goes on. In order to grow ourselves we must look inwards: we hold the key to our own successes, and by taking total responsibility for our lives, we can transform, we can achieve more than we ever dreamed we could. All that we desire is possible, but sometimes our challenges seem insurmountable.
How often do you find yourself saying:
Or in other words: I’d change my life if I had the time!
The thing is, you do have the time, and you have all the resources you need to make changes for the better. Sometimes it’s just a case of looking at things differently, of learning to stop striving and to start living the life you truly desire. We must remember to live in the present, that future planning is all well and good, but is not the means to contentment. Our ongoing happiness is a continuous journey with no end, so by dropping all sense of reaching the finish line, we can focus on what matters, and welcome the knowledge that time, wealth, peace and joy are abundant.
Some simple ideas about getting things done:
These days, Doreen's main area of focus is Angel Therapy and she lives here if you want to visit!